As
divorcing couples in Minnesota are likely aware, emotions can run high when a
couple decides to separate or dissolve their marriage. However, some
individuals may be more harmfully impacted by these heightened emotions than
others.
If the
couple has children, they may be the most likely to have a negative experience
stick with them for an extended period of time. It is even possible this
negative experience will impact the relationship they have with their parents.
This may be a scary thought for divorcing parents, but there are actions that
can be taken to protect children during a divorce proceeding.
First of
all, it is a good idea not to rush into litigation when going through a
divorce. There are other more amicable alternatives, such as divorce mediation.
When a couple decides on a more collaborative approach than litigation the
process usually moves more quickly. Litigation often pits couples against each
other whereas mediation allows the separating couple to focus on co-parenting
strategies. This makes the process less strenuous for any children involved.
Secondly,
it is important to ease a child's transition into living in two households.
When a parent has a child or children at their house, it is important to focus
on having fun with them and enjoying the time together rather than trying to
find out what's happening in the other home. In addition, experts recommend
never speaking ill of an ex-spouse. This may also be a good time to communicate
with children about their feelings, making sure they understand the divorce is
not their fault.
It may
also be helpful for children, and potentially the divorcing couple, to spend
time speaking with a therapist. This can help everyone work through any
resentment, guilt or grief they may be experiencing.
Lastly,
it is important for the divorcing couple to take care of themselves. Experts
suggest using the time alone to refresh and spend time bettering one's self.
This may re-energize parents and make them more positive around their children.
Even if
a couple going through a marital dissolution decides on mediation, it is still
a good idea to seek the assistance of an attorney who will help to guide them
through the process. This attorney will do everything possible to reach an outcome
that preserves a divorcing party's financial, emotional and relational health.
Source: Huffington
Post, "5 Ways to Protect Children During Divorce," Deborah Anderson Bialis, Nov. 25,
2013
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